Apr 30th, 2004 10:23:38 pm EST
Me? Shy?
I suffer from a debilitating shyness. Really! I do! All through my life, most of the people I've met, especially women, was almost never in a one-on-one situation where I could say that I introduced myself or made small talk or even smiled at someone. It's so frustrating! More than once since "M" and I broke up, I have made eye contact with attractive women but could never muster the courage to say 'hi' or smile or even to keep the small talk going when they initiated it.

I came on campus to study tonight, but instead found myself doing the usual -- sitting behind a computer screen reading AskMen. This really pretty girl came in to do some work in the lab. There were lots of empty seats around cus hey, it's Friday night, and who really studies on a Friday night? I actually logged off the computer I was on and went to sit next to her. (Real stalker behaviour eh?) I sat there for over an hour and said nothing. I even noticed that she was supposed to be doing a paper on something and was totally stumped. After about 45 minutes, this guy who's apparently in a class with her came in and spoke to her for like five minutes about going to a club and about how she was stuck and stuff. She seemed nice, and had a nice voice too. Green eyes. No glasses though; that would've been a clincher. Well when he left, any thoughts I had of speaking to her just went down the drain. I sat there and just smiled like the little boy that I am :-) Recently I went to a bar and I was standing right next to an attractive girl (no glasses either) and we made eye contact for quite a long time. I was standing right next to her and couldn't say 'hi'!

I know what you're saying to yourself. "Him? Shy? Who woulda' thunk it?" I'm not quite the extrovert that I'm made out to be. My mouth only opens after I've met someone (who I didn't introduce myself to) or after I've downed two drinks. And that's the god-honest truth! I'm averse to using lines too. Especially really corny ones like "What time is it?" Who says that? That's almost as 'good' as asking "What's your sign?"
8 Comments
Mood: frustrated
The masterorator: needs some comforting. A bosom to lay his head on maybe?

sexymagickdesires (April 30th, 2004) i totally understand, i'm shy too. I like a guy and nothing - i mean nothing is in my head on how to introduce myself. i tend to meet the shy guys too...stand around and smile at each other. I have no advice here..just understanding

lorrie_flash (May 01st, 2004)
Just have to force yourself--if you want something bad enough. Worst that could happen is rejection, and everybody gets that in their life.

Not so surprising you are really shy. Most people who post on the Internet are shy--and MANY don't have real sex; they live their sexual lives online. I post on this message board where most (who answered the question) have admitted to not having a lover.

The really socially active, sexually active people don't have time to be on the Internet, except for doing work/research, IMO. I've cut down on spending so much time on boards myself as I get busier in my work, and hopefully soon to be busier sex life.

But being new to the city of NY, I figured it would be easier finding fuck buddies to spend real time with offline, then running around in the streets. I seem to be right. I could be sleeping with more guys I met online, but a person needs to be careful--and it's a good idea to be selective.

sexymagickdesires (May 01st, 2004) you're right the pickup lines are terrible but honestly if you were next to me and ordered a buttery nipple..that would get my attention I don't think all of us that post on the internet have no lovers, I have a couple of lovers here and there but I am shy and its a way for me to communicate to my shy lovers what i like and don't like

Piper (May 01st, 2004)
Practice makes perfect. The absolute worst, worst, is a no. That's it. A no. Go for it. The more you do, the easier it becomes.

N (May 02nd, 2004)
I use to be so very shy, but I developed a 'Fuck It' attitude. Whenever I come in contact with a guy that might turn me down (because there's always that possibility), I just say Fuck It and go for him. (Of course, sometimes my shyness gets in the way no matter what.)

masterorator (May 03rd, 2004) I think you women are missing one very important point: you have breasts :-) guys don't usually turn women who approach them down, even if they're not all that attractive. It's a big ego boost for a girl to approach a guy. Men have it much harder. An attractive woman would shoot down a 'normal' guy quite easily, even if it was subtle.

remittance girl (May 04th, 2004)
Once you can get them past the initial catatonic state... shy guys are by FAR the best. And, ultimately, all that stuff they were hiding comes out where it does the most good.

:-)

DTG (May 06th, 2004)
I agree with remittance. Shy guys *are* the best. And as for lines, MasterO, don't worry about it. Not as many girls go for players as players like to think. "Hi!" works for me. Just spit it out, darling